A bride's wedding speech — how to write one that's completely yours.
More brides are speaking at their own weddings. Here's how to write a speech that says what you actually want to say.
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There's no rule that says the bride can't — or shouldn't — speak. More brides are giving their own speeches, and the best ones are memorable precisely because they feel different from the formal wedding party speeches. Here's how to write yours.
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Three opening lines for a bride's speech: 1. "Good evening. I know this is slightly unusual. You were expecting the groom and the best man, and they're coming. But I have things I want to say, and I've been told all my life that waiting for someone else to say the important things is not a good strategy. So here I am." 2. "Hello. I'm Emma — the bride. I've been told by three separate people today that this isn't traditional. I've considered this feedback. I'm doing it anyway." 3. "Good afternoon. I've written this speech four times. The first three were too long and too earnest. This one is still too long and too earnest, but I've decided to stop trying to fix it and just say what I mean." --- Good evening. I'm Emma. I'm the bride. And I have a few things I want to say. First: thank you. Not as an obligation — as an actual thing I want to say out loud. You are the people who matter most to us and you came. Some of you came from very far away. Some of you rearranged your lives to be here. That is not nothing. Second: my parents. I'm not going to do this properly because I'll cry and then my dad will cry and we'll never recover. So I'll just say: thank you for making me someone who knows how to love something completely. That's what you did. Third: James. I've been thinking about what to say to you in front of people. I've decided on the truth, which is this: you are the best decision I've ever made. I know that's a lot to say in a room full of people. I'm saying it anyway. Ladies and gentlemen — to my husband.
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Acknowledge that it's unconventional, briefly and confidently
A single line that notes you're doing something slightly unexpected — said with confidence, not apology — immediately wins the room over. Then get into the speech.
Structure it differently from the groom's speech
The groom's speech covers: thank yous, the relationship, the partner. The bride's speech can be more personal and less obligatory. You don't have to cover all the same ground. Say what you want to say.
Don't try to match the best man's tone
The best man speech is often the funny one. Your speech doesn't need to compete with that. It can be warmer, more personal, more directly emotional — that contrast often makes it the most memorable of the day.
Include your parents and the people who shaped you
A bride's speech has a particular opportunity to thank the people who made her — parents, close friends, mentors. Done briefly and specifically, these lines are often the most moving of the day.
End with the groom and the toast
The speech should end, as all wedding speeches do, directed at your partner and then opening to the room. Keep that closing sincere and direct.
Frequently asked questions
It's becoming more common and is increasingly well-received. The guests usually love hearing from the bride. There's no reason not to speak if you have something to say.
Usually after the groom's speech and before or instead of the best man's speech. Check with whoever is coordinating the day to slot it in the right order.
You can, briefly. But you don't have to cover everything the groom covers. Divide them up, or focus yours on specific people the groom might not mention as directly.
Four to five minutes. The same as a maid of honour speech. Short enough to hold attention, long enough to say what matters.
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