Groom speech tips for nervous speakers — how to deliver with confidence.
Most grooms are nervous. The ones who look confident usually aren't — they've just prepared properly. Here's how to do the same.
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Public speaking anxiety is extremely common, and wedding speeches are particularly high-stakes. The people you love most are watching. These tips won't eliminate the nerves — they'll give you the tools to work through them without letting them win.
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Three opening lines that start calmly and build confidence: 1. "Good afternoon. I'm going to start very simply, because simple is how I'd like to feel about this whole business, and I'm doing my best. I'm Tom. I'm the groom. I'm extremely pleased to be here, and slightly terrified to be standing up. If you'll bear with me, I think this is going to be alright." 2. "Good afternoon. I have a confession. I have been worried about this speech for approximately four months. My best man thought this was extremely funny. My wife — my wife — has been very kind about it. I want to say upfront that if I look like I'm reading too much, I am reading too much. It is intentional." 3. "Right. Here we go. I'm James. I've written this speech. I've rehearsed it. I've timed it. I've had it read by two other people. I am still nervous. I think that's appropriate. Today is worth being nervous about." --- Good afternoon. I'm Tom, and I want to be honest with you before I start. I've been dreading this. Not the wedding — the wedding is the best day of my life. I've been dreading the speech. I am not a natural public speaker. I am a person who thinks clearly in written form and then says approximately 60% of what I intended when someone puts a microphone in front of me. I've prepared for this by writing everything down and then saying it to Sophie repeatedly until she begged me to stop. Here's what I know. I know that I want to thank my parents, who are the reason I turned out mostly fine. I know I want to thank her parents, who raised someone extraordinary. I know I want to say something to the people who came here — specifically, for coming here, which is not nothing. And I know I want to say something to the woman beside me that I can actually say in front of you all without it feeling inadequate. Sophie. You make everything better. Every room, every situation, every version of me. Thank you. That's the speech. Ladies and gentlemen, to Sophie and Tom.
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Write every word down and use it
There is nothing wrong with reading your speech from a script. Everyone does it. The goal is good delivery, not a performance without notes. Write every word and let the script be your safety net.
Practise until the nerves reduce, not until they vanish
The nerves won't disappear entirely. That's fine — a small amount of adrenaline actually sharpens performance. Practise enough that the nerves are manageable, not enough to chase a calm you won't have.
Take a breath before you start
After you stand up and before you say the first word, take a visible pause and a breath. The room sees this as confidence and control, not nerves. It also genuinely helps.
Slow down more than you think you need to
Nerves speed everything up. Deliberately speaking more slowly than feels natural will bring your pace to approximately correct. Mark the places in your script where you want to slow down even more.
Make eye contact with one friendly face first
Find your partner, a close friend, or a family member and make the first few lines count for them. Connecting with one person settles the energy before you open it to the whole room.
Frequently asked questions
Pause. Breathe. Find your line. Say something light if it helps — 'I'm in the right place, bear with me' — then continue. The room is entirely on your side. They will wait.
Yes. Every speaker has notes. Use a full printed script, cue cards, or your phone. Whatever makes you feel most secure. Practise with whatever format you'll use on the day.
Slow breathing before you stand up. Standing still rather than shifting weight. Speaking slowly — nervousness accelerates speech, so deliberate slowing counteracts it.
One drink is fine for some people. More than one risks slurring, losing your place, or worse. Know yourself and be conservative — you want to be present, not anaesthetised.
Yes — a well-written, clearly structured speech is significantly easier to deliver than one you've cobbled together. Good material makes confident delivery much more achievable.
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